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How to Quit Taking the Bait
My girlfriend is constantly making negative comments about herself that she wants me to disagree with. It’s so frequent that I’ve started to ignore it. She criticizes her ...
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Keep on Falling Out of Love
I’m 27 and having trouble finding what I really like in a guy. I can enjoy a guy’s company, and everything goes great for a short while, and then I seem to lose interest o...
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In Your Eyes, He’s Irritating
My ex is starting to call me again. He calls me up and starts to play a Jimmy Eat World song at full blast that he used to say made him think of me. Afterward, I hear three lo...
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Single and Mostly Loving It
I’m 23 and have never had a romantic/sexual partner. My mother and aunts seem to think that having a guy is the only thing that really defines a successful young woman. It s...
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Name Your Comfort Level
I legally changed my name after suffering childhood abuse from my paternal grandfather. Recently, I got married and kept my “maiden” name. My in-laws are now wondering why...
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The Curse of the Grandma
I am engaged, with a 6-year-old daughter from a previous relationship. I do not want my fiance’s mother to be part of my child’s life. She smokes and curses constantly, an...
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Gear Up for Quitting Time
Another year gone, another year I’ve failed to get out of my miserable job. I can’t seem to get motivated for the job search. I have plenty of excuses — perhaps some of ...
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Find a Place in the Crowd
I feel like I'm constantly sabotaging myself in terms of getting close to people. I’ve lived in a lot of different places for my career, and I'm always about to move. I've u...
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Put a Stop to Status Updates
My unemployed friend is constantly on Facebook, and I’m worried that [the content of her posts] might be hindering her ability to find a job. Her posts are usually political...
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Fix It, or Forget About It?
Several of my friends and I were single for the longest time. A few years ago, I got married and had a child. I’ve since noticed a sea change in these relationships. None of...
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Getting at the Naked Truth
My boyfriend of almost a year is addicted to porn. It’s all over his room, and he loves to talk about it. His addiction concerns me, since that seems to be the only thing on...
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This Plus-One Is a Negative
I recently got invited to a friend’s wedding. My boyfriend, who agreed to go with me, suddenly dropped out at the last second. This infuriated me, as this has become a major...
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Best Friends or Boyfriends?
I’m a single gay man in love with my best friend. I always find myself thinking about him and wanting to be around him. I get so jealous when he’s hanging around other peo...
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After the End of the Affair
I ended an affair with a co-worker (married with children). I have no intention of letting anyone know, and if he wants to go on with his marriage, so be it. But I don’t wan...
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The Speaker of Your House
My boyfriend and I keep arguing about politics. He’s very left of center, and I’m not so much. We used to appreciate each other’s differences, but now I feel like he’s...







